Stopping the World

A HUGE “Thank you” to everyone who sent kind messages after my post Time Out  I really appreciate your support.

I envisaged taking a few days out, but my Spirit needed longer…

I travelled back to my father’s death back in 1995 from non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma – a terrible disease that ravaged his poor body, settling in his bones and causing him immense pain and suffering.

One night, I travelled to a massage therapist to gently ease my own pain.  On my return home, a young deer ran out in front of my car and was badly injured.  I stopped and cradled it at the roadside, while a kind passerby went to find a vet.  Sadly, a gamekeeper from the nearby estate arrived and told me, “The kindest thing is to put it down.”

I walked away from the young deer and returned to my car, as a single shot rang out…

My tears flowed like a torrent for that poor gentle deer, for my dear gentle dad and for my own grief.

Last week, I remained shocked and saddened after the death of a lovely, young woman who left this good earth too soon.

My sister and I were anticipating a walk, when a group of four young deer greeted us in a nearby wood.  The deer had found some shelter amongst the trees and were enjoying some tasty morsels; they nonchalantly continued eating.  We stood and watched for several minutes, both overjoyed at Nature’s beautiful vision.

I recalled the spirit of the deer who died on that roadside…

In Native American culture, seeing a young deer brings a message of “gentleness and the power to heal our wounds.”

I knew I was doing the right thing for my Spirit by “Stopping the World” for a little longer.



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  1. I am happy you have healed much from the break but also share in your sorrow for the losses you have had to endure, be strong, weep, grieve but be strong, for those around you care and love you much. Nature it seems grieved and then rejoiced with you. Be blessed always.

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      • Jumped over from the Senior Salon
        I believe most of us feel at least slightly guilty “taking time out” – even when it is unexpected and unavoidable, as with illness and tragedy, etc. I believe that somewhere below conscious awareness we all believe that burn-out is somehow our own darn faults because “we didn’t do it right” – so few of us stop *before* we are fried to a crisp.

        Women seem more vulnerable that men, it seems to me. Not only do our brains seem more “hard-wired” for community in the first place, remnants of days when we had to protect each other when the stronger males were off hunting, but also because society seems to inculcate the value of “sharing” to a greater degree in girl children — meaning ourselves as well as our things.

        We hear “don’t be selfish” quite often, many of us, and it seems rather like we are breaking the rules when we focus on Self and Self-care. I’m glad to read that you are taking the time you need — a good model for all of us (especially helping professionals like me).
        (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
        ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
        “It takes a village to educate a world!”

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      • I am so sorry you lost your mother at such a young age – and that you, no doubt, had adult responsibilities long before they were appropriate. I can relate.

        I was the oldest of 5 as well (3 boys), and given more responsibility for their welfare than made sense or, looking back with what I know now, was good for me. Even though I understand how and why it happened, I also missed out on a peer relationship with them, even though we were relatively close in age.

        It has been years since I felt responsible for my siblings, but I still struggle with “over-functioning” in helping roles. It’s a process, and I think we all learn it the hard way. Good for you for taking care of YOU!

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  2. I am so sorry you have lost these souls from your life, my dad went far too early and too suddenly a long time ago, but I still periodically need to take time out to be with him. I fully understand the shock and grief over the deer, so sad. But how lovely that the others came to you when you needed them. 💜

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  3. I am a big believer in “taking time out,” but it was a lesson I had to learn the hard way. I got cancer one week after I retired from teaching. Now I take “time out” whenever I need to…during the day; any day when I feel I’ve been overwhelmed by the week’s events; for vacations and mini-events that I am scheduling as frequently as possible. I only wish I had done this more frequently…sooner. Good for you!

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  4. what a moving post-and I had no idea about the deer. When my husband died, a friend had a vision of a deer coming to me, along with a native American-I need to research. Death is the hardest thing I know of for the living ones left. Prayers of healing sent your way.

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  5. Brigid, God bless you in this time of berievement. Each time we lose someone or something very special, there is a grieving process… We learn from each previous ‘process’ yet each time of grieving is also unique… Each one ‘adjusts your course’ towards a ‘new norm’. God bless you as you move toward that new norm!

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  6. Soooo much Light and love and blessings, Brigid. I’m giving you a virtual hug. I say 9 words as part of a peace prayer, for some reason they are present with me now to share with you: “I love you. God bless you. Peace, be still.” ❤ Debbie

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  7. Beautiful post Brigid, and fascinating about the deer. I didn’t know that about them. Big hug for your sadness. Loss of our friends can so often take us back in time to our former losses. In grieving for my mum over the last two years, I have also grieved for my father and grandmother, both of whom passed away many moons ago, when I was probably too young to fully grieve. I feel it has been an invaluable time to help “mop up” and work through deeper hurts, that weren’t processed at the time. Take Good Care of yourself and take lots of time to do so xx .

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  8. Oh Brigid.. how poignant! I hope you are feeling as well as you can at what is clearly an incredibly sad time.. Yes.. sometimes we do just need to take time away for our inner soul.. xx

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  9. Boy you had tough go of it, sadness everywhere. I’m so glad you saw those deer at the end of it all, as if to reinvigorate you and say it’s all okay. You’re such a beautiful soul Brigid, I’m glad you took time out to comfort it. I’m happy you have your garden to refresh yourself with…as you know all too well…nature is one of the best healers. Sending joy and peace your way!! xo

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  10. Stopping the world for a little while, this is really great.
    Today is Your Birthday and International Women’s Day both together are making the World stop by.
    Everyone who comes here has to stop by and wish YOU for both.
    The Deeds You and Other Incredible Women on Earth do is Commendable and I respect and adore the Women folk rather than the Men.
    Fond Regards to the Birthday Girl.


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